Start As You Mean To Go On. . . UPDATE

I am pleased to report that before I left work on Wednesday I talked with Roger and Sara about my concerns. Sara stated simply that they are only human and there's only so much they can do which of course made me feel totally guilty. They are great parents and really doing an amazing job every. single. day. And I'm proud of them.

I also know that my standards are very, very high and meeting them isn't something I expect of most people. It's not because I want others to disappoint me that my standards are so high but if I can do it, why can't everyone, is kind of my thinking. But I doubt most people find the same things I find as important as I find them. I'm sure there are loads of reasons for this, my childhood probably one of the biggest.

I digress, this post was meant to update and focus on how thrilled and proud I felt to see Sara start dinner for everyone while Roger entertained both Tomatoes on Wednesday as I got ready to leave. Even if they can't do it every night, making the effort and realizing it is a big deal, is a great and wonderful step.

Side notes:
Roger's perspective focused on how many opportunities they'll have for family dinners, why rush. I had to be honest and tell him that before he realizes it they will be four years old and he'll not know where the time went. He wasn't bothered by this in any way. So I asked how long he thought they'd sit and listen to him and want to be at family dinners. He was sure they'd last until the tomatoes were at least sixty. Yes, I typed that correctly, 60 not 16. Funny following his conversation with me this morning about what one would do with their life if one found out they only had a month to live.

Sara's view centered on how they'd (she and Roger) had grown up having family dinners so she wasn't worried about never getting to them, of course they'd make them happen at some point. Of course as she said this Roger asked her what she was talking about. He'd never had family dinners growing up. And she went on to explain that her family dinners consisted of her mom calling her dad to dinner and him arriving about an hour later after they'd all finished.

It's my own little thing but I'm so happy believing that they all sat down to dinner Wednesday night together. [ And while it wasn't exciting or anything life altering, they did sit down together and enjoyed it as much as they could. The best part is now that they've done it once they know they can do it. ]